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You're doing some great things: Letting all the women flirt with you, letting them see you interacting with other women, etc. However, what may be occurring is that you are giving off the vibe of an eligible guy, but they are smelling too much *Player* on you. TOO MUCH flirt and not enough taking it to the next step.
Time to turn up the heat a few notches. Some of the factors that are most important in converting a girl you've met into a possible dating prospect is that you need to be working along the Dating Continuum at every step of the way. (Yes, that's in my e-book.) You start with a look, but you don't stop there. You move on to the approach and the phone number. But you don't stop there, you move on to the first meeting. But you don't stop there .... You get the point. It's a constant, persistent motion forwards, alternating with a few steps back along the way so you don't run over her. |
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| He gives you that little pat on the back. Watch out for this one. A person who gives you a hug while patting you on the back is indicating that they are uneasy. According to Raduenz, the *hand pat* on the back indicates someone is uncomfortable with what they're doing. The bigger the pat, the more discomfort they feel. There's more. Another important sign that things may not be going well is the amount of contact during a hug. Full frontal contact is good. The one-shoulder hug, or pulling away in other areas could be a sign the person is *distancing* in the relationship. If it's a new relationship, the other person may not be quite ready for that level of physical contact. If it's an established relationship, it could be a sign the person is pulling away, or getting ready to break off the relationship. | ||
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Now, you don't have to be a JERK, you just have to know how to be emotionally STRONG. JERKS don't need to be emotionally strong, because they really are constantly focusing on a new woman, and really don't have much emotion invested in any ONE woman. GOOD GUYS must have the strength to not fall under a woman's spell and to be able to IMMEDIATELY walk away from a woman should she disrespect him. And he must CONVEY this through his behavior, not through direct communication and words.
Direct communication is weak, since it involves very little mental effort on the other side. Sometimes just a disinterested LOOK can say more than a thousand words. And because it's harder to be a good guy than to be jerk, many guys get seduced by the *dark side*. The problem with being a jerk though is that it works on breaking down a woman's self-esteem, and women with low self esteem are in my opinion NO FUN AT ALL. |
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